Greetings Golfers,

One of the joys in life are misunderstandings. Maybe not.

We’re always sending out signals, but they can easily be misconstrued and the fun can then begin. But we can’t be so overly sensitive that we have to resolve every perceived slight, yet we do need to clear the air if it becomes obvious that something is afoot.

This clearing of the air can be a very good thing. Usually it leads to a better understanding and a better relationship. I’ve learned that if it doesn’t lead to a better relationship, it’s because one side doesn’t really want a better relationship. They don’t want mutual resolution, understanding, and compromise – they want total victory and someone’s head on a pole.

Thus, all the more reason to try to clear the air. Too often, we just hope the situation will go away. It won’t – it will only get worse. So it’s worth the effort to try to fix it – either it gets better, or you find out that the other person doesn’t want it resolved.

Maybe it’s because I’m getting older, but I don’t want to waste my life on grudges and hard feelings. That’s definitely not one of the joys of life.

Cheers,

Tom Abts
GM and Head Golf Professional
tabts@deerrungolf.com